"I've known you too long to date you" - WTF?

Faqa · Post by **Faqa** » Sun Oct 08, 2006 2:17 pm

Had Guy #1 asked me out - and I do know that he wanted to date me, because he was disappointed when he found out I was going out with #2 - I might well have given him a similar excuse to what your lady friend gave you: something along the lines of "I don't want to damage our friendship," which would really be bullshit. But when Guy #2 wanted to date me, I had no reservations whatsoever.

Ladies - assuming Guy #1 is harmless, not violent and all.... just tell him NO. Please. It's better for all concerned in the long run. You get your point across, the guy gets a kick in the pants to improve. And there's no messy misconceptions to clear up.

Stofsk · Post by **Stofsk** » Sun Oct 08, 2006 2:53 pm

There's nothing wrong with the 'let's just be friends' line, if both parties actually mean it.

Faqa · Post by **Faqa** » Sun Oct 08, 2006 2:58 pm

There's nothing wrong with the 'let's just be friends' line, if both parties actually mean it.

Sure, but with outright saying "I'm not attracted to you". No excuses, outright saying you are simply NOT INTERESTED in things going further than a friendship.

Stofsk · Post by **Stofsk** » Sun Oct 08, 2006 3:14 pm

Well to be fair on the girls, how often do guys, after getting the 'let's be friends' line, have the presence of mind to say "Wait, you don't find me attracted? At all? So we're clear?"

Few, I'd wager. So like I said, there's nothing wrong with a girl saying "Let's be friends" if she actually means it. Often times though it doesn't work because it's the guy who can't accept it, and still holds out hope for the day when she'll come around. I've had direct experience in this, both with myself and my feelings and observing two of my school friends do the same over a period of years. It finally ended with the girl finally getting sick and tired of him doing random things that showed he was still interested in her (by this time she was going out with one of our mutual friends), which actually had evolved into a passive aggressive sulking resentment towards her.

zac naloen · Post by **zac naloen** » Tue Nov 28, 2006 4:18 pm

Heh, this friend reminds me of something my girlfriends sister says about my social group back home.

Aparrently we're all inbred, because we never really date outside of our social circle and most of the guys and girls have had something go on at some point in the time we've known each other.

Clearly the "We've been friends for too long" line isn't that big of a deal for us...

The Cleric · Post by **The Cleric** » Tue Nov 28, 2006 11:52 pm

Try and keep the necromancy down.

Bratty · Post by **Bratty** » Wed Jan 24, 2007 10:29 pm

Try and keep the necromancy down.

There's always room for necromancy and jello.

Stofsk · Post by **Stofsk** » Thu Jan 25, 2007 1:11 am

Hey Bratty! Long time no see! What's been shakin'?

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